I took this photo in October 2018… after what was the hardest summer of my life. I had bought this outfit with the intention of using it on a particular day. A day when I could liberate myself from the mess I had found myself in… I never got to wear it for what I had intended it for… and the following months are hard to forget. I wish I could forget them.
A year later I had a miscarriage.
And this October… two years later.. I’ll give birth to a baby boy…
The past two years of my life have truly been the hardest years of my life… I found myself in several little messes… some of which I had made myself… and some of which were made by others.. but what I am learning… is how to be liberated… how to be free…
Below are words by Tara Bliss… found via her podcast Sounds Like Bliss on episode 14: The Goddess with her hand on my back. You can find it at https://tarabliss.com.au/episode14/. Give it a listen.., it’s for all women facing those big forks in the road. From her transcript below:
“My heart was thumping, and I was angry, but my breath was calm, and I could taste liberation. So close. So close this time. So close to me lingering in my nose, still requiring me to chew and spit out the bones and then swallow in good faith.
In one moment it seemed a kaleidoscope of memories lay out before me, time frozen as I acclimated to the intensity of this here reality. A fork in the road appeared in my mind, a fork I had seen many times before and veered off in the wrong direction due to naivety, avoidance, codependency. But the invitation for my 15 seconds of courage was nigh, and it was urgent.
These are the moments that refine and define a woman’s life. These are the moments that redefine her and all that she can be. And this moment wasn’t just mine, it was an archetypal boom in the cosmos, a big bang in and of itself for all women too afraid to do the hard necessary thing.
I felt millions of women with me as I calmly packed my bag that afternoon. I felt the Goddess with her hand gently pressed into the back of my heart as I pushed the gate open. I felt the huddle of hope around me in that car almost as if every woman who wanted to draw strength from my strength was absorbing warmth from a fire. My fire. Holding their breath as my key turned in the ignition, holding their breath because they feared that this would be just another detour down that shonky branch of that fork in that road. Another detour into simply taking some space and collecting some thoughts and taking some more responsibility for what was not ours… what was never ours to carry. For uttering apologies, it’s circumstances unworthy. I could hear them urge, repeat, beg…. drive. They needed proof that they could do it too.
And as they keys turned into the door of my secret studio apartment, a cove of safety and retreat, and as I entered with tears of relief stinging my eyes, these women in my heart and all around me did the most unexpected thing. They danced.
And I, salty and dehydrated from weeping, I joined them. The nights I dissolved that contract, I danced in that little studio apartment until sweat ran down my thighs and down my back and sexual energy eclipsed me into tingles. All that power, I had syphoned into trying to keep a tower without healthy foundations tall, mine again. Striking me like lightning, coming home, humbling me with how worthy I felt to lay and stand and dance in the receivership of it. Caressing that guilt right out of my bloodstream.” –Tara Bliss
Ah…the last stage of working with the four major moon phases. This is the time to really sit down and reflect. Really think about how far you’ve come…or how much more time it will take to accomplish the goal you set at a new moon. This is another (second) half moon and half point.
If you planned to complete your goal in one complete moon cycle…meaning…you set the goal at the new moon, checked in at the first quarter, accomplished by the full moon…then now is the time to be thankful that you did it. Be grateful. Say HELL YEAH!
If you are still working on your goal (for example you wanted to complete something in three full moons) then now is a time to check back in with yourself. Reflect on your progress and think about the next step. At the new moon your can set the next step during that phase to get it done.
Most importantly this is a time to reflect. Look inward. Be thankful for the things that have come into your life and what is now leaving your life. Think about what you want to accomplish…WRITE IT ALLLLL DOWN. Working with the moon is great when it is accompanied with a journal! You’ll start to see patterns and it’s also a stress reliever!
Now to the nitty gritty…the Moon is in Aries tonight…so you may feel a bit gung-ho and revved up! Aries is a VERY assertive and sometimes aggressive sign…The RAM…a fire sign…a VERY “I AM” sign…COURAGE comes to mind…listen to that intense intuition…act on it…DO IT! (With carefulness not to get too hasty and careless). If you feel the need to clean out the fridge DO IT…and then be thankful that you did…because after all YOU WANTED TO DO IT. Don’t take yourself for granted…and think about all the good things that have come into your life by PAYING ATTENTION to your own needs and wants…
If you are working through some problems…ACKNOWLEDGE them…ACCEPT them for what they are…and then LET THAT FEELING GO! Ask yourself…is this helping me? If it isn’t…and there is nothing that can be done…accept it for what it is AND THEN LET GO AND LET GOD…it may not make the feeling go over night…but it’s the first step in moving on…two good tips for letting something go and making a promise to yourself to move on…
ONE: Write it allllllll out on a piece of paper…every bit of it…DO NOT DOWNPLAY YOURSELF OR BLAME YOURSELF…shit happens. Learn from it. When you’ve written it all down and you are ready to let it go…BURN IT! (Safely) BURN IT…Especially TONIGHT! I mean….the Moon is in Aries tonight…and Aries is a FIRE SIGN. Burn it and imagine it disintegrating…you don’t need it…LET GO AND LET GOD.
TWO: Or…write that bad feeling or thought on a rock and THROW IT INTO A LAKE OR THE SEA OR POND OR ANY BODY OF WATER….let it sink to the bottom…because you DON’T need it anymore…LET GO AND LET GOD.
To round off the night…if you are just happy…BE HAPPY…
Remember the Law of Attraction…if you think happy…you get happy…
AND for your personal pleasure…a GREAT Message from Shia LaBeouf!